Kalyan “Kay” Sikdar

I met him once only but remember him as, ye, being that gentle man. Many blessings seem to have come from his gentle moving on. My love is with his family and to his sweet Dorene. Love, Karen Aiken

Losing a dear friend is losing both your past memories and the ones you would have built in the future. I am so sorry.

You were a special man, a kind soul with a since of humor to make anyone laugh. I only got to know Kay about 6 months or a little longer before his passing. I also had the pleasure of meeting his beautiful wife. My kids loved Kay, expecially my son, he was always joking about working on his muscles and how he would have to wear floaties to catch up to being as big as my son Brody (14). We met at a local gym I was working at, at the time. Even in a small amount of time Kay was a giant part of our lives. We will all be together again one day and it’s comforting knowing that. I will miss your laugh, energy and love for people and life. May your spirit live on though all thoes you’ve touched! I’m so grateful we crossed paths when we did only wished it could of been sooner. With love in our hearts we will miss you our dear Kay. Christina, Brody and Isabella.

My introduction to Kay was through my dear friend Perry Lacey, a next door neighbor. Having met him only a short time ago, breaking bread with him and Doreen on several occasions, I knew him to be a person that would pleasure my life. Like many others, I found him to be a kind, witty and soft spoken man. We had much laughter during our times together and I was looking forward to enjoying his and Doreen’s company often. Though I had an only short time knowing him, the memories I have will be with me forever. Perry and I speak of him often and will continue to keep the memories we shared with Doreen. I pray for the repose of his soul and ask God to look kindly upon his service to Him throughout his lifetime life.

I just had the pleasure of meeting K and Dorene in the last year through our mutual friend Perry Lacey.. It was a pleasure to meet a kind man that made me feel comfortable to be around . I was from out of town and he and Dorene made me feel most welcome .❤️

Although I knew Kalyan only a short time I did indeed think he was both a true gentleman and a gentle man. I witnessed his patience and love of family. He was so appreciative of his family and people around him. I liked him and had hoped to spend more time with him and Doreen. I had no idea when I met him that his time in this earth would be so short and I sincerely wish I had made more of an effort to get together with him and Doreen sooner. My prayers go out to both of them. Sincerely, Mary Power.

For roughly the first 10 years of my life, you blessed our house every weekend with laughter and stories. You shared with my parents the struggles of being a first generation immigrant working to succeed but with an optimistic outlook and love of America. You generously offered to be my legal guardian in case of demise of my parents when you didn’t have to take the responsibility. You will be loved by the Angels up there but we miss you deeply here and now we share the memories of all your stories and generosity. You left us too soon. Love Gabu

I knew Kay as a gentle, supportive man, a loving and considerate guy who put others first. Highly intelligent, he still seemed childlike, almost innocent, for he always looked for the best in people. He had a touch of irony, though, that came out in his constant humor, subtly relentless. His devotion to Doreen was palpable and inspiring. I feel a void, but I will remember this fine man. Joshua Hayward

Khokonmama was an amazing person, but he was more than that. He was my dear grandfather whom I saw from a young age. He showed us the joy we could experience in life, and he’d create it for us with his infectious laugh and charisma. It will never fail to make me gape in awe how he could walk into a room and make everyone smile with just his presence alone. Him and Dorene aunty had a massive impact on our lives, with their optimism, positivity, and love for the arts, which influenced my famil so much. My brother and I learned from his generosity and spirit of kindness.
I’ll never forget how he’d believe in others and always had something to say to inspire them. It was a fitting reminder that even with just a smile and bounce in your step, you could make someone’s entire day, and he was living proof of that. I’m so thankful that he and Dorene aunty entered our lives and changed them for the better, as they did many others. We will cherish all the moments and laughter we’ve created together. You are unforgettable and we will keep you in our hearts forever.

Kay we will remember you forever for all of your many wonderful attributes! As a kind, patient and gentle soul, we all always appreciated your words of wisdom so much that you were on Terri’s “board of directors”. We always thought of you and Dorene as our older siblings so we appreciated your wonderful support over the years! Who didn’t love your great sense of humor!? The angels up in heaven will be graced with your corny, yet beloved humor! Every once in a while please smile down from heaven on us to say hello! We will be missing you and your gentle spirit Kay Sikdar! PS thank you Dorene for sending the football video of K so we can laugh with you all once again! Love, Terri, Brent and Brendan

Kay was such an out-going person—friendly, funny and helped whenever the opportunity arose. As Kay and Dorene were next door neighbors, I would often see him when leaving my apartment and he would wave to me and wish me a good day—always with his incurable smile. I’ll miss his jokes and great humor! May God bless the Sikdar family.

I have known Kalyan close to 50 years. A kinder and gentler soul I have never seen. He was generous to a fault. I asked him several times to donate to my many charities and he always donated so generously and willingly. He was always ready to help people who needed it. He had a very positive attitude towards life which made it much easier to share personal challenges. During conversations, he would show you there was a light at the end of the tunnel and things were not as terrible as they seemed. Over the years there were times we were quite depressed but if he came into the room he would lighten up the atmosphere before we knew it we would all be cheerful. His humour was amazing and even a few days before he passed he was telling jokes to his sister and easing the pain of his soon to be departure. He was like a brother to me as well. Why would such a wonderful man leave us so soon? Before he passed, he called me to thank me but I didn’t get a chance to thank him for all that he did for me! It hurts to think Kalyan is not with us.

Dearest Dorene and family, it is so hard to believe that our beloved Kay is gone. I am sad (and I admit, angry too) that he was taken from us too soon…there was so much more joy to be had, smiles to share, walks by the ocean, dinners together, laughter and fun to experience in Kay’s presence. All of us have been blessed by Kay’s way of being in the world. He set the consummate example of how to be kind, generous and helpful to others. He never failed to help me with excellent advice whenever I had a need. I will forever treasure the memories of our countless conversations around Kay and Dorene’s kitchen table in Gahanna, Ohio and how Kay was truly interested in me and my activities. Dorene, I am here for you as you go forward, like so many others who knew and loved you and Kay. And I promise this: in whatever way I can, I will pay forward the goodness and generosity that Kay showed to me in countless ways. Like a pebble dropped in a pool, Kay Sikdar created ripples and waves of love and joy that keep spreading out and out to bless the world. Goodbye Kay. Thank you for your life here with us. You are The Best! Love, Donna Hartmann

Kalyan or Khokonda as known to us is no more is beyond belief. Our prayers is with him and his family. He was the most humorous and kind person known to me. It was all smiles, fun and jokes when he was around. Kept me wondering, how does he do it. I’ve never seen him upset, or he was able to hide his feelings very well. It never showed. One thing that was remarkable about him was that he always made you feel important as if your existence really matters. His kind-heartedness was beyond comparison, always there for you in your time of need. I remember him helping me whenever I was in crisis. He did not leave me alone to fend for myself, always said that I AM ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU. Just leave me a message. HIS SMILING AND HAPPY FACE IS REMEMBERED by all of us here in India. One thing I forgot to mention, One QUALITY WHICH OUTDID ALL OTHERS WAS THE EFFORT THAT HE PUT IN BRINGING FRIENDS AND FAMILY TOGETHER. Never can anyone have a better brother than him.

I met and worked with Kay at Sperry Univac. We became good friends. His kindness and graciousness, his sense of humor, his caring for others, was part and parcel of his character. I am so glad I knew him. Just not nearly long enough.